So, I had another interesting conversation with the Libertarian (if you don’t know who that is, click here). This time, the subject was friendship. It didn’t start out that way, which is how most of our interesting conversations go. One minute we’re talking about movies or work, and all of sudden, the chat turns super serious and thought provoking.
Anyway, if you haven’t guessed by now, my friend has a very strong opinion about everything. When it comes to friendship, he has what I like to call a “zero-tolerance” policy. Apparently, if someone he considers a friend doesn’t contact him in some way, shape or form for a long period of time, he doesn’t consider them a friend anymore. When asked how long is a long period of time, he gives a vague answer: anywhere from a six-months to a week. Like if he calls you and you don’t return his call the same day, that’s possible grounds for termination. Then, there’s the follow-up question: What if they have a really good excuse? I was diagnosed with cancer. A loved one died and I was distraught. I have T-Mobile as my cellular provider. Answer: doesn’t matter. No excuse is good enough to warrant non-communication.
Of course, my mind is blown. I have friends who don’t keep in touch with me often and vice-versa, but I still consider them friends. In fact, for a select few, I’d drop everything to rescue them if their backs were really against a wall. Is that not enough? And, what about social networking (yes, it’s relevant!)? In the age of Facebook, Twitter, and to a lesser extent MySpace, does not logging onto a friend’s page to check their status equal keeping up with them? Sure, it ain’t real conversation, but hey, it’s something. By not keeping up with someone’s everyday, are you less of friend then you think you are?
I say, sometimes my life is boring. If my friends would rather skip the boring parts and be there for the really important stuff, it’s okay by me.