So, yesterday I overheard this conversation about overweight, gay men. I don’t really know how it started, because my earbuds were blasting something from iTunes into both my ears. However, when I overheard someone loudly say that, “there’s nothing worse than being a fat, gay men,” I couldn’t get those things out of my ears faster enough to hear the rest.
Apparently, none of the conversationalists knew of a gay man that was overweight and they began to make assumptions that the life an overweight gay person leads is something to be pitied. There was even a comment that the gay community was so body obsessed that a need arose to create clubs and communities where people who were not a size 28 could feel accepted and/or loved. At this point, I don’t really think that my mouth could have dropped any further towards the floor. Needless to say, I got through the conversation without busting out my two cents thanks to iTunes, but of course, the damage had been done. The insult had burrowed into my mind and had begun to fester.
Now, I consider myself a gay male with some extra pounds, so I had to honestly ask myself is the gay community THAT superficial? Yes, I’ve been shot down before, but I’d like to think it was because I was approaching the wrong people; people who didn’t care about me and who wouldn’t care about me if we were to become friends/lovers/whatever. Yes, seeing “no fats” on every other gay personal is frustrating, but then again that’s just their preference and their loss, right? Yes, there is pressure to be slim or more muscular, but isn’t that a preference not shared by all gay men? Maybe my fat ass is just being naive, but I’d like to think there are guys out there who are not just attracted to the size 28s, because if what I overheard is any inkling of the truth, then it kind of makes me not want to be gay anymore. Unfortunately, that sucks because there’s not a hell of a lot I can do to change that.
It pains me to hear shit like that, it does. There are too many people dealing with weight and body issues on the brink of doing something drastic. Overhearing a conversation like that is enough to drive them over the edge (and no, I’m nowhere near that point, so relax). I’m not sure what else to say, so I guess this is the end of this post for now.